The men who wrote the New Testament were not the same men who are depicted in New Testament. In fact, lots of men wrote stories about biblical society, but not all of those stories made it into the final addition because they weren't congruent with the underlying themes the existing church intended. The New Testament was written and compiled by men. There were no women whatsoever involved in its creation, except for the characters depicted in it. If you're going to "rethink church," consider the foundation of an organization that excluded women from its creation.
If you need a social community, consider volunteering with a student organization, or an animal rescue shelter, or a trail preservation organization. There is a lot of fellowship going on in those types of groups.
If you need answers to the seemingly impossible questions, consider going back to college and studying the natural sciences and mathematics. You will find that a great deal of the tough questions about the planet are made clear through scientific research.
If you feel lost and lonely, libraries and live concert halls are fantastic places to meet interesting people. Volunteering for your local community orchestra can also provide deep fulfillment and a sense of belonging.
If you're going to "rethink church," consider an organization that isn't currently contributing to global social unrest. Religion, after all, is a dominant contributing factor to the conflicts raging throughout the world. Not only is religion fueling political polarization in the U.S., it is dangerously close to causing a nuclear arms race between the Arab countries and Israel. Your local mountain biking club has no such part in global unrest, or does the community center's evening baking class. Neither of those organizations, by the way, require you to forgo birth control or suspend your understanding of science.